Hidden Hero

 

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Hidden Hero

To those struggling with their inner faith
To Care Givers Everywhere

Hero or coward?

I am mighty, I am strong!
I can whip any wrong.
I will face each bully down.
I will make it safe in town.

No I’m not, I’m afraid.
I’m a victim ready made.
I’m no hero, leave me be,
I just want to live as free.

There’s a hero in each of us
Just waiting to be born,
All we have to do is call on him,
He’ll answer to the trumpet horn.
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The Inner Struggle

Inside, outside, all around the mind,
Ego hides behind a cloud.
Wait now, comes a noisy crowd,
Whadda they want, what’s to do with me?
Inside the self the ego hides behind the me.

Inside out join the coffee club,
Jabber, jabber get to the nub
Of the matter, white, or black or grey,
Think outside the box,
There’s so much fun with dividends to pay.

Which am I, an extrovert who plays the game?
Or introvert who plays at self blame?
Who knows what’s the name to call me by?
I’m sure I do not know, goodbye!

No wait, I want to be more brave,
I want to learn just how I should behave.
No wait, already I know just what it is that I should do:
Stand up and claim my rights, and that is overdue.

There is a hero inside of each of us
Say hello to your braver self,
And when he comes and saves the day,
He will fill you up with undiluted awe.

Inside, outside, hide or fight it out
You have a hero inside of you, never you doubt,
He waits for discovery, waiting to come out.
Work with him now, work together as a pair,
Show the people just how much it is that you care.
You can face the world now, you can even dare
To let your courage grow.
You are your own hero, didn’t you know?

The resolve

So that is life, on the ever ever go.
So my hidden hero, no need to stow away,
You can come on out, any needed day,
You’re always welcome here. So come on and stay.

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CREDITS: All images from Clip Art, no other source discovered.

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Crazy Lady

 

Crazy Lady: to pill or not to pill

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The Old Lady’s Goin’ Crazy:  How she sees herself

Crazy Lady

Hey! The old lady’s goin’ crazy agin!
Hootin’ and a hollerin’ like she’s bin in the gin,
Prancin’ and a dancin’ and lettin’ out a cuss,
Why she’s bin makin’ one gawd-awful fuss.
Give ’er a dizopain!

Well dang it dad there she goes agin,
She’s gone and got herself all worked up a sin;
Next she’ll be foamin’ at the mouth until it end.
Well doggone it all, she’s gone around the bend.
Give ’er another dizopain!

Well the old lady, she fin’ly settled down,
Thanks  to that little pill the doctor foun’,
And we grabbed ourselves a quick little break,
Which lasted until…the old lady wake.
Quick now, grab the dizopain!

Hey Ma! The old lady’s blowing her top.
She’s trekkin’ outside ’n she’s totin’ a mop,
She got herself half a mile headstart,
Says she’s gonna sort that neighbour tart.
Quick now, bring that dizopain!

Well we caught up to that crazy old gal,
Stopped her in her tracks and popped her a pill.
The old lady’s bin calm and restin’ her rig–
Oops! She gits up agin an’ she dances a jig
Best be tossin’ us that dizopain!

Poor old lady, she ain’t bin herself today
And she’s driving the doctors all cra-zay,
And the nurses cain’t keep the old lady still,
Must be somethin’s a drivin’ her agin her will.
Pass the dizopain!

So the doc he doubles the power o’ that pill,
But wouldn’t ya know, she’s a prancin’ up the hill…
Ye jest cain’t keep a good old lady down.
Why, she’s havin’ more fun than a dozen clown.
Hold that there dizopain!

Well, that old lady, she’s a happy old coot
And she’s havin’ herself one helluva hoot–
She gone and found her own stress relief…
Come crazy lady, help me dance away this grief.
Toss that dizopain away!

CREDIT: Clip Art. No other source was found.

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Regrets: A Good Thing

 

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Regrets: I Got a Ton

“Regrets” is dedicated to all broken-hearted lovers
and all my Alzheimer’s and care-giving friends

Regrets

Regrets? I got a ton.
All the fights I never won,
All the love I never lent,
And all the anger that I spent,
All in vain, and what a strain.

Ups and downs all along the way,
The Debts that I forgot to pay,
And all the times I turned my back
Because I saw it as attack.

Do I regret? Yes I regret.
And if you say you don’t, you lie.
Regrets, regrets, I got a ton;
Fix them up or hope to die.

I didn’t mean to hurt you, you know,
Snub you, insult you reject you,
Or mean to be misunderstood.
Yes I know, that’s what they all have said,
I just got all caught up in life.
Complications, of course, arose,
And all in all, I do suppose,
My intentions were always good.

Regrets, regrets, I got a ton.
Fix them up or love is done.
Regrets, regrets, I got a ton.
Fix them up or love is done.

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Regrets: A Second Chance

The thing about regrets is that
You can learn from them right off the bat;
You can pick yourself back up again
And you can learn to make amends.
You can patch things up and start again
’Cause trust is far too valuable to end.

Without regrets you never learn,,
Love is something that you earn
A friend is far too dear to lose,
But you can lose if you accuse.
This bond is far too dear to end,
It’s best to learn jut how to bend
Like the willow in the wind
Instead of having to rescind
And rue your future days.

You must first forgive yourself,
Live your life in better ways,
Try to live a life to never give
You any cause to have regrets.
But know that if you fail perchance,
Regrets will offer you a second chance.

Take your chance and run with it,
You may never get a second second chance.

CREDITS: Bird cage — Clip Art; http://www.happinessinyourlife.com/Poster-and-Prints.html
Forgiveness pebble — http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/nine_steps_to_forgiveness/

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Coffee Break: Harry and Mary

 

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“I need a coffee break.”
“Oh! You!”
Harry snapped.
“I’m going for coffee.”
Harry stormed out of the room, leaving Mary dumbfounded. She shouted at his retreating form, “Why don’t you listen, Harry? You know I’m right.”
She retreated to the bedroom and had a quiet cry. “Oh God,” she pleaded, “can’t you make him better?”
She heard Harry rattling around in the kitchen, the squeal of the kettle, a door slam shut, heard Harry’s voice. “Come in here,” it said. “Let’s have coffee. I need a break.”

Curious, Mary tip-toed out to the kitchen. She tried to make out the muffled voices, but could not make out the words.

The words were Harry saying, “So good of you to come over, Joe.”
And Joe saying, “Any time, Harry old boy. Glad to lend an ear.”
“An ear is fine, but can you lend me patience?”
“Well, if I can Harry. What brings this on?”
Harry tried to explain. “Well it’s Mary—“
“Isn’t it always?”
“Yes it is. This time she’s tryin’ to tell me I’m suppoze to take a pink pill. A pink pill! At eleven o’clock, she says. Doctor’s orders, she says. Who is she to tell me that?”
And Joe says, “Well, what do doctors know these day, eh?”
“Yeah, what do doctors know. I ask you, a PINK pill. For a guy. Whatever next?”
“Makes you wonder, don’t it, what kinda training they get these days.”
“Yeah, what kinda training? Makes you wonder.”
“Yes, it does.”
There was a pause, and Mary, still in the kitchen straining to hear, asked herself, “Who is this Joe guy? We don’t know any Joe.”
On the other side of the door, Joe’s voice was saying, “Good coffee, Harry.”
“Yeah. Thanks.”
This was followed by a longish silence. Finally, Joe’s voice: “What was it you wanted Harry?”
“Can you lend me fifteen bucks Joe?”
“Sure Harry, no problem….What’s it for?”
“Bus fare.”
“Oh? Goin’ somewheres?”
“Over to Plainswood.”
“Yeah? Who you know over there?”
“Old Pete. You recall old Pete? They’re holding his funeral over there.”
“Old Pete, eh? Didn’t he die? Some ten year ago, I believe.”
“Yeah. But I got word he’s dying’ again.”
“That so?”
“That’s what they say.”
“Well I’ll be darned.”

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A loud knocking on the door distracted the conversation. Harry looked around, stared at the door. The knocking was repeated.

“Who’s there?” Harry shouted. He was annoyed at being disturbed during his coffee break.
“It’s me, Harry. Mary.”
“Oh. What d you want?”
“You’ve been in there for hours. Who are you talking to?”
“Huh What? Uh—nobody.”
“Well you were talking to somebody.”
“No I wasn’t.”
“I heard voices.”
“No you didn’t.”
“Well it’s time to come out. It’s time for your pill.”
Silence.
“Oh, yeah,” came Harry’s voice. “I forgot.”
The door opened.
“Is it that pink one?”
“Yes Harry. It’s the pink one.”
“Oh good. Tastes like cherry.”
“What about your friend?”
“What friend?”
“The one you were talking to.”
“I wasn’t talking to anybody.”
Mary peered into the room. She saw no one. “Well! I’ll be darned.”
“That’s what Joe said.”
Mary shrugged and gave him his pink pill, which he swallowed willingly.
“Can I have a cuppa coffee now? It’s time for my coffee break.”
Mary bit her tongue, sighed. “Yes, of course, dear.”

CREDITS: Coffee break squirrel by KomankK, found in ClipArt; could track no further.
Coffee break for two, the logo in the photo by Jorgen Grotdal of Norway, out of Pinterest: https://www.behance.net/gallery/Lookbook-2013/11205133
You can find Jorgen at https://www.facebook.com/Grotdal
or at http://instagram.com/jorgengrotdal

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Until There’s a Cure: There’s Us


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Until There’s a Cure: There’s Us

A Poem of Hope

We all hope for a cure. Meanwhile…

“When glass cracks it seems almost instantaneous thanks to the speed
at which glass shatters–cracks form in glass at a staggering 3200
meters per second.”
                                                                  –from How-To Geek Newsletter

Me: I guess you would say that that is brittle.  Some people are like that.

Care givers, for example, especially when they get tired. And most of them do. Those who are on their own certainly do.

So when there is yet another promise of a cure, they can but sigh sadly because they know that this help is not coming in time for their loved one.

That is where people like Teepa Snow come in. Teepa, a physiotherapist and dementia-care education specialist, has developed practical and proven methods for dealing with brain-changing disease such as Alzheimer’s. She has also has developed a series of videos illustrating these “contending” exercises for the care giver.

Teepa says “Until there is a cure, there is care!”

This has prompted me to write “Until there is a cure: there is us.”

You can find Teepa Snow at http://teepasnow.com/

Until There’s a Cure

Until there is a cure, there’s us.
We have to deal with all the fuss
The deck of life has dealt for us.
We take the hand that we are dealt,
With all the things that we have felt,
We soldier on and hunt the ace,
Discard the cards that do not face.
The scientists will do research
They’ll test the rats that weave and lurch
Until they get it right.

But till they do, it’s me and you
To cope and learn and play the game,
Although the deck is stacked against.
We must ask, who’s the boss of us?
The master of the game, or us?

And as the carer stated it,
Till there’s a cure, there is care;
The carer cares and does her share,
But ’til there is a cure, there’s us.

So we will be the caring one,
We’ll play our cards and learn to hold
And when to play the trump.

We do our best and we don’t fuss,
But till there is a cure, there’s us.

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CREDITS: Mad Scientist from MrDream at http://www.deviantart.com/art/Scientist-54570807
Playing Cards from DeviantArt by Fluffgar, out of ClipArt

 

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I Never Thought: But let’s dance

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I Never Thought: But he’s a hoot

And I’m Glad

I never thought that I’d retire him into a home
I swore I’d keep him here with me right up until the end
and he would never roam. But when it came right down to it.
I was left to intuit that now indeed that time had come.

And so I put him there, into another home,
To live among the strangers there, I told him to beware
The nurses might just take a liking to his charm
And he would soon forget about that little woman me.

Well much to my surprise and much to my delight,
That cussed buzzard did in fact charm everyone,
And all the little nurses doted on my man;
And even in my visits, he entertained them all—

He sang to them and told them jokes that turned their faces red,
And they applauded him and they all asked for more,
Till head nurse had to step right in and send them back to work.
I was embarrassed, yes, and yet, it was such a joy to see.

For my man, in patient’s gown, would get up and do a dance
And the patients and the nurses all would do a little prance,
And laughter filled the room and filled my man with glee,
And content was I, for this was how he was when he was home with me.

So I give my thanks and I take to heart for this magic bit of time,
This glimpse I see of him, the the man I’ve always loved.
For as long as he’s like this, the longer he’s with me,
And the longer will he live, and the longer HE will be.

Although I never thought I’d shove him in a home,
It brought back the best of him, the impish little clown;
So as long as happiness is his, then happiness is me,
And while I never thought of it, it is the best that it can be.

IMAGE CREDIT: ClipArt;  http://insertmedia.office.microsoft.com

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Sometimes: When I Say I’m Fine

 

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Sometimes When I Say I’m Fine

I’m Fine: But…

Sometimes when I say I’m fine,
I see you don’t want to know.
Sometimes when I say hello,
You suddenly have no time.

Sometimes when I say I’m fine,
Really I’m not so fine, I hurt;
It pains me when you’re so curt,
But I walk a fine tight line.

Sometimes when I say I’m fine,
I really want to cry;
That explains my deepest sigh
For the peace for which I pine.

Sometimes when I say I’m fine,
I lie. Really what I mean
To say, you are not so  keen
To hear or to say let’s dine.

Sometimes before all this,
You used to talk with me,
And you could always see
When things had gone amiss.

Now that’s gone as gone is youth,
I want to hear some words that soothe,
I want you to make things smooth,
I just want you to say the truth.

Sometimes I really miss you,
We were really quite a pair;
But life isn’t always fair,
Sometimes a wee hug will do.

Sorry to disturb your day
With irrelevant wee details;
What would you care about
My state of sad affairs?

Sometimes I don’t feel quite like me,
Life leaves no time to breathe.
Sometimes it’s just too much to grieve,
All I want is to be free.

I’m fine, I’m fine, I’m fine.
I’m certainly very fine
Can’t you see that I’m just fine?
This tear you see? Not mine!

Sometimes I walk a line so fine
When I’m feeling down and blue,
And you ask me how are you,
Sometimes I simply say, “I’m fine.”

IMAGE CREDIT: Clip Art from Creative Commons

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